I have been thinking a lot about marriage today. There are times i ask myself why i got married, and i have to remind myself that it is a choice i made myself. Here is the story that has prompted all these thoughts today:

A married male friend of mine was talking about his boss, lets call him James (not his real name).

" I met the boss in town this weekend, he was doing some shopping with his wife. He has a very beautiful wife, very light complexion, she is colored and did i mention very beautiful. When he saw me he came to me and greeted me and i asked him who was his female companion and he said she was his sweetheart. He did not introduce her to me, she was standing about three yards from where we were. I asked him to introduce us in case i meet her somewhere and propose to her, she is very beautiful. The guy i was with could not believe she was his wife. when he left he sort of hinted to me that she was too beautiful for him,my boss is kind of not so good looking."

Honestly i did not know what to comment on that conversation. When he was talking i was just thinking if my husband would talk like that about someone else' wife. i guess woo to us 'plain' women. But how would my friend's wife feel if he could hear her husband talk like that about another woman, it was obvious it was beyond paying her friendly compliments.

Back to being a virtuous woman, i sometimes find it challenging to be a virtuous woman when my husband does not seem to appreciate who i am,or even try to show that i am valuable to him. I know in our world men are constantly being tempted, with beautiful women throwing themselves at them, that is why women need to feel special to their husbands, its an assurance that although many people act like this, he is different. Anyway, that is what i think. what i would like my husband to do, it does not need to have a monetary value to it, just a simple act that says i love you and you are special to me.